Couples and Marriage PSychotherapy
"every positive thing you do in your relationship is Foreplay"
-John Gottman-
Intimate relationships add great value to our lives but can also lead to great unhappiness, which manifests in many ways. This discontent is rooted in our desire to be wanted, understood, and validated. I am here to navigate you through any potential confusion while exploring messages inherent in your interactions, sexual intimacy, and family dynamics.
Your relationship isn't "abnormal".
Relationships invariably face change which is often perceived to be negative. Frequently, we fall under the false notion that relationships should be "easy". I challenge this assumption and assert that relationships can be tough and asking for help is no indication of failure. The purpose of couples counseling is to address this reality, providing a new framework for communication and understanding between partners to enhance intimacy and shared meaning.
We can work on your "communication problems".
(Mis)communication drives conflict. More often than not, couples focus on arguing rather than effectively discussing their feelings. I believe arguments are "normal", but need to be navigated with empathy, understanding, and honesty.
By focusing on your communication patterns through an objective lens, we will ultimately come to a greater understanding of each individual and a better way to move forward. Through self-improvement and internal validation the foundation is set to restore an intimate, thriving and compassionate relationship.
Working on the relationship means working on yourself.
Let me help you re-frame the conflict in your relationship. Relationships are a reflective of each individual and where they "are" in life. This means we need to work towards growth for each partner, which will ultimately improve the relationship. At this point the relationship is not two halves dependent on each other to make a whole, but rather two whole and complete people who consciously choose to create a partnership.
If you are experiencing physical, emotional, or sexual abuse in your relationship, I encourage you to call 911 if you are in immediate crisis, or call 206-205-5555 to get in touch with King County domestic violence advocates (or click here for more information)
